The common belief that emotions are a form of energy to be vented or suppressed is wrong. Emotions are more like a recipe, combining ingredients like thoughts, actions, memories, and physical feelings to create the final state, such as anxiety.

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Negative emotions are signals that something needs attention, much like a car's engine light. Don't ignore them. Instead, sit with the feeling to understand it, grant yourself grace for feeling it, and then create a concrete plan to address the root cause.

Labeling emotions like fear as 'bad' leads to suppression. This act disconnects you from your body and forces your attention into your mind, which creates debilitating self-talk. True confidence is not the absence of fear, but the willingness to feel everything without judgment or suppression.

Our psychological experiences, including positive and negative emotions, are not separate from our physical selves. They are direct results of biological processes in our brain's limbic system, which evolved as an alert system.

The habit of emotional withholding isn't selective. When you consistently suppress feelings like sadness or anger, you also unintentionally stifle your ability to experience and express joy. Emotional health requires being open to the full spectrum of feelings, not just the negative ones.

A thought triggers an emotional and physiological response that naturally lasts less than 90 seconds. To feel an emotion like anger for longer, you are actively re-thinking the thoughts that re-stimulate the emotional circuit. This reframes sustained moods as a series of choices rather than an uncontrollable state.

Ignoring your feelings doesn't make them vanish. Instead, they go "underground" and manifest later as burnout, frustration, or depression. The practice isn't to fix emotions but simply to name them without judgment, which is a key skill for preventing burnout.

The "Catch, Confront, Change" method, rooted in cognitive behavioral therapy, reframes emotions as a useful alarm system. Anxiety or other negative feelings are the first indicator that a counterproductive thought is present. By "catching" this signal, you can then confront the thought's validity and actively change the narrative, rather than letting the emotion spiral.

Contrary to the dominant medical model, mental health issues like depression and anxiety are not illnesses. They are normal, helpful responses that act as messengers, signaling an underlying problem or unresolved trauma that needs to be addressed rather than a chemical imbalance to be suppressed.

We often assume our thoughts cause our feelings. However, the body frequently experiences a physical state first (e.g., anxiety from adrenaline), and the conscious mind then creates a plausible narrative to explain that feeling. This means the "reason" you feel anxious or unmotivated may be a story, not the root physical cause.

When you suppress an emotion, you physically jam an energetic pattern into your body. Over time, this creates tight, compressed areas—'lock boxes'—that can lead to chronic pain, postural issues, and shallow breathing. This physical blockage also disconnects you from your body, trapping you in your mind.