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Chelsea Handler observes that some men use the concept of equality as a justification for abandoning traditional courtship manners. She argues for an updated social etiquette where chivalry and respect can coexist with gender equality, rather than being seen as mutually exclusive.

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Modern Men Mistakenly Conflate Gender Equality With a Lack of Chivalry | RiffOn