A critical element of effective coaching is absolute confidentiality. Premier providers establish guidelines upfront and will refuse requests from HR or managers for specifics discussed in sessions, even if it upsets the client. This builds the paramount trust needed for the coachee to be vulnerable and grow.
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While the industry coaching success rate is 50%, Franklin Covey achieves 97%. They attribute this to hiring coaches who have prior business experience as executives (CEOs, SVPs). This real-world acumen, beyond just certification, allows them to connect with and guide leaders effectively.
The biggest professional and personal problems often stem from a lack of candor. Withholding honest feedback to "keep the peace" is a destructive act that enables bad behavior and builds personal resentment over time. Delivering the truth, even when difficult, is a gift that addresses problems head-on and prevents future failure.
Instead of trying to convince people of the importance of vulnerability, first have them identify their core values. They will naturally conclude that living up to those values (e.g., courage, excellence) requires them to embrace the uncertainty and risk inherent in vulnerability.
Stanford's famous "Interpersonal Dynamics" course teaches a counterintuitive leadership principle: sharing personal vulnerabilities and imperfections doesn't weaken a leader's position. Instead, it builds trust and fosters stronger connections, shifting relationships from a mystery to something one can actively shape through authentic behavior.
Instead of trying to find the perfect words, preface difficult feedback by stating your own nervousness. Saying, "I'm nervous to share this because I value our relationship," humanizes the interaction, disarms defensiveness, and makes the other person more receptive to the message.
The most effective client-agency partnerships are not the easiest, but the most honest. They are characterized by clarity, mutual trust, and a willingness to have frank conversations. This directness, rather than constant agreement, is what leads to breakthrough creative work.
Onboarding is more than a technical setup; it's a trust exercise. Every step either builds upon or erodes the trust established during the sale. A single misstep can permanently damage the relationship, making future renewals, upsells, and referrals exponentially more difficult to secure.
Instead of offering unsolicited advice, first ask for permission. Frame the feedback around a shared goal (e.g., "I know you want to be the best leader possible") and then ask, "I spotted something that's getting in the way. Could I tell you about it?" This approach makes the recipient far more willing to listen and act.
Don't hide from errors. Steve Munn found that when he made a mistake, taking ownership and handling it well actually enhanced client "stickiness" and deepened the relationship. Clients saw he cared and was accountable, building more trust than if the error never happened.
Senior leaders, like managing partners and CEOs, often carry significant burdens they cannot share with their teams or even their families. This creates a profound sense of isolation, highlighting the need for a trusted, confidential advisor.
