Purpose isn't a pre-existing truth you find, like an archaeological dig. It's something you actively build, like an architect. You choose an area of interest, invest energy to build skill, and it transforms into a passion through a feedback loop of personal fascination and external validation.

When leaders are stuck defining their organization's mission, this question forces a shift from generic goals like survival to tangible impact. It clarifies the unique value provided to customers and society, revealing a more motivating and authentic purpose beyond simply 'staying in business.'

Purpose isn't exclusive to high-status professions. Any job can become a source of deep purpose by connecting its daily tasks to a larger, positive impact. A NASA custodian can be "putting a man on the moon," and a parking attendant checking tire treads can be ensuring driver safety. Purpose is a mindset.

To find your true calling, divide your life into five-year increments. For each block, list what you loved doing and what others said you excelled at. The seven or so themes that repeatedly emerge point directly to your core purpose and passion, which often get lost in the pursuit of money.

Bilyeu offers a tangible definition of life's purpose: first, acquire as many skills as possible that have real-world utility. Second, test those skills in service of a mission larger than your own self-interest. This two-step process of gaining and deploying skills creates profound fulfillment.

After burning out, Bumble's founder returned with renewed purpose by reframing the company not as an app, but as a "vehicle to deliver love." This elevated, mission-driven perspective—seeing the company as a means to a greater societal end—can be a powerful tool for leaders to overcome fatigue and reconnect with their work.

The ultimate aim is not to achieve conventional success, but to fully express your unique self. This lifelong project is paradoxical: you cannot become unique by yourself. You need others—friends, family, customers—to reflect your authentic self back to you, helping you see who you are.

The motivation for self-improvement should come from an obligation to those who depend on you—family, colleagues, and customers. Viewing them as the primary beneficiaries of your growth creates a more powerful and sustainable drive than purely selfish goals.

After her mother died, having endured a toxic work culture while sick, founder Janice Omadeke used that painful memory as a motivator. She baked the mission to prevent others from having that experience into her company's DNA, transforming personal grief into a profound professional purpose.