When you're too junior to contribute verbally in a meeting, becoming the designated note-taker is a strategic move. This act forces you to organize information, which aids retention and, as Mark Andreessen noted, can subtly shift power to the person documenting the conversation.

Instead of pushing advice, the most effective initial strategy with an unwilling team is to simply observe. This 'pull-based' approach builds trust and rapport, making the team more receptive when they eventually ask for your input, rather than feeling like you're forcing changes on them.

Effective product managers recognize and adapt to social power dynamics. This can mean participating in uncomfortable but necessary social rituals, like laughing a bit too hard at a boss's joke. Completely opting out of this 'game' can be perceived as aloofness and may result in being overlooked.

True power comes from 'say-do correspondence.' When you tell someone to do something and a good thing happens for them as a result, they are psychologically conditioned to comply with your future requests. This earned influence is far more potent than inherited status.

To effectively lead through influence, go beyond aligning on shared business objectives. Understand what personally motivates your cross-functional peers—their career aspirations or personal goals. The most powerful way to gain buy-in is to demonstrate how your initiative helps them achieve their individual ambitions.

Influence is nudging someone in a direction beneficial for both parties and is built on honesty. Manipulation benefits only you and relies on deception or lying. Lying is the shortcut that crosses the line from ethical influence to manipulation.

By taking on undesirable but necessary tasks, you become highly valuable to your manager. This builds leverage, as even a self-interested leader will want to retain and reward someone who makes their life easier and solves their problems.

The term 'fighter' in leadership doesn't mean being aggressive. It's about resolutely standing for your beliefs while using strong relationships, built by giving more than you take, to bring people along and drive change effectively.

Narcissistic power isn't always domineering. Covert narcissism controls people from a position of perceived weakness, using tools like passive aggression, constant guilt-tripping, and making others feel responsible for their well-being to make them submit.