Global data reveals a "humor cliff" where daily laughter sharply declines around age 23, as people enter the workforce. An average 4-year-old laughs 300 times a day, a frequency that takes a 40-year-old two and a half months to reach, highlighting a critical loss of joy in professional life.
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Over the same decades that children's independent play has declined, rates of youth anxiety and depression have steadily risen. Unsupervised play is crucial for developing an "internal locus of control," which allows kids to learn they can handle life’s challenges and builds resilience.
Tyler Cowen theorizes he has never experienced uncontrollable laughter because, like taste, the pleasure from humor has a maximum limit. Just as the best sushi can only be so much better than good sushi, a joke's funniness has a ceiling that falls short of inducing an involuntary physical reaction.
Our brains are wired to respond less to constant stimuli, a process called habituation. This is why the joy from a new job, a great view, or a loving relationship can fade over time. What was once amazing becomes normal, diminishing its impact on our daily happiness.
Having young children is like having a "joy jukebox" because they experience everything for the first time. This gives parents a chance to indulge in and appreciate simple wonders again, from a fresh perspective. This re-framing highlights a key, often overlooked, benefit of parenthood for ambitious individuals.
Young professionals often feel behind their peers, but this is a flawed perspective. At 23, you are not yet playing the game of life or career; you are merely in the warm-up phase. Judging your performance now is premature, as you haven't even stepped onto the field.
