In professional football's "dog-eat-dog" world, any sign of weakness is preyed upon. Crouch explains that admitting to mental struggles would likely lead to being dropped, forcing players to adopt a "man up" persona and hide any vulnerability to protect their position on the team.

Young employees' perceived lack of resilience isn't a generational flaw but a result of parenting that shielded them from hardship. The decline of teenagers working difficult, blue-collar summer jobs has created adults who are less prepared for the realities of the workplace.

While some aspects of life can handle stress and bounce back ("bend the reed"), others, like key personal relationships, can break permanently under extreme pressure from overwork. The small gains from achieving a career goal a few years earlier are often not worth the risk of irreparable damage to your personal life.

To combat perceptions of favoritism, Colt McCoy's father, who was also his high school coach, intentionally held him back and set higher expectations. This forced McCoy to earn his starting position beyond any doubt, a process that built resilience and a powerful work ethic.

The strong cultural expectation in America to find a positive outcome from adversity (a "redemption story") can be harmful. This "master narrative" can pressure those experiencing trauma, like a severe illness, to invent a positive spin, leading to feelings of failure and isolation if they cannot.

Career success is a poor indicator of a person's inner state. A high-achiever can exhibit immense "outer resilience" while their unresolved trauma manifests internally as chronic illness, addiction, or anxiety. Leaders shouldn't assume top performers are okay.

While discipline is essential, recovering from traumatic injury is powerfully accelerated by an external, high-stakes goal. The pressure of preparing for a film with Jason Statham provided a tangible target that dragged Bugsy Malone through painful rehab.

While resilience is praised, it has a dark side. The same grit that fosters success can make you endure toxic jobs, relationships, or paths for too long simply because you *can* handle it. This is the curse of competence: just because you can carry a heavy weight doesn't mean you should.

Society rewards the ability to outwork and out-suffer others, reinforcing it as a valuable trait. However, this skill is not compartmentalized. It becomes toxic in private life, leading high-achievers to endure maladaptive levels of suffering in their relationships and health, unable to switch it off.