Evidence suggests that much of what people claim as post-traumatic growth is an imaginary coping mechanism. It's a way to rationalize suffering and reduce cognitive dissonance, rather than a true, observable transformation in thinking, feeling, or action.

Neuroscience shows that individuals in high-power positions exhibit reduced motor resonance when observing others. This is a measurable neural change indicating diminished automatic empathy, not just a metaphorical shift in attitude or a conscious choice.

Career success is a poor indicator of a person's inner state. A high-achiever can exhibit immense "outer resilience" while their unresolved trauma manifests internally as chronic illness, addiction, or anxiety. Leaders shouldn't assume top performers are okay.

Trauma's definition should be tied to its outcome: any permanent change in behavior from an adverse event. This reframing allows for "positive trauma," where a difficult experience forces you to adapt and establish a new, higher-performing baseline, ultimately making you better off.

Resilience after trauma is less about age and more about the nature of the event. Both children and adults show high resilience to acute, one-off events. However, both groups struggle immensely with chronic, ongoing trauma like abuse or war, which overwhelms natural coping mechanisms.

When men report feeling numb, it is a common misinterpretation to see it as an absence of emotion. In reality, numbness is a psychological defense mechanism signaling that the emotional system is overwhelmed and has gone into shutdown. It is a sign of emotional fullness, not vacancy.

When someone "pushes your buttons," the problem isn't the person pushing, but that you have buttons to be pushed. True emotional resilience comes from dismantling these internal triggers, which are often tied to your sense of worth, rather than trying to protect them from external events.

In high-stakes encounters, the trained professional (like an ICE agent) is responsible for managing their own trauma and emotional responses. It's their job to de-escalate, and we should not expect a civilian victim to be more composed than the paid, trained officer.

To survive constant dehumanization and violence in prison, Shaka Senghor had to disassociate and emotionally harden himself. A major part of his post-prison healing is consciously working to soften this protective layer and reconnect with empathy and tenderness.