Research shows women often have more mentors than men, but men have significantly more sponsors. Mentors offer advice, while sponsors use their influence to advocate and create opportunities. This distinction is critical for advancement, as sponsorship provides access to roles that mentorship alone cannot.
A mentor isn't someone who provides step-by-step instructions. The most powerful learning comes from finding someone you admire and closely observing their every move, how they speak, and how they behave in the face of obstacles, rather than seeking direct guidance.
While acknowledging the benefit of having mentors, Herb Wagner has found that the process of being a mentor is even more educational. Teaching and guiding others forces a deeper understanding of one's own principles and provides fresh perspectives from the next generation, offering greater personal and professional growth.
To build relationships with potential mentors or sponsors, replace the extractive ask of "Will you mentor me?" with the value-added offer of "How can I help you?". This non-transactional approach demonstrates your worth, builds genuine rapport, and makes influential people want to invest in your career.
Orlando Bravo argues valuable mentorship isn't found in occasional calls. It's cultivated through daily work with colleagues who have direct context on your challenges. Proximity allows for the deep, nuanced guidance that scheduled, low-context conversations cannot provide.
While young men may be fans, it's their mothers who are the most effective supporters and advocates for addressing the issues facing them. Mothers see firsthand when their sons are struggling compared to their daughters, making them a powerful and credible cohort for advancing the conversation productively.
Don't wait for a promotion or new job opening to grow. Proactively identify other teams' pain points and offer your expertise to help solve them. This proactive helpfulness builds relationships, demonstrates your value across the organization, and organically opens doors to new skills and responsibilities.
Career challenges faced by professional women are not random but fall into seven recurring patterns or "power gaps." These include not recognizing accomplishments, isolating from support, and acquiescing to mistreatment. Identifying which gaps are present allows for targeted, effective action.
Standard application processes often filter out candidates with non-linear career paths. Bypassing these filters requires "warm networking"—building genuine connections with people inside a target company to let them see your potential as a human, not just a CV.
Building influence requires a strategic approach. Actively survey your professional relationships, identify where you lack connections with stakeholders, and methodically invest time in building alliances with leaders who can advocate for your ideas when you're not in the room.
Data shows that while men reinvest 35% of their wealth, women reinvest 90% back into their families and communities. Empowering women economically is not just about individual success; it's a powerful strategy for circulating capital and creating systemic, positive change in entire communities.