Data shows high-status men practice assortative mating, pairing with women of similar educational and economic standing. The "rich man marries the young, beautiful waitress" trope is a myth; successful men value partners they can relate to intellectually and who understand their world.
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For hyper-successful women at the apex of their fields, the optimal mating strategy is to choose a partner from a completely different 'status game' (e.g., an entertainer marrying an athlete). This avoids direct professional comparison and competition, allowing for a relationship based on complementary, non-overlapping forms of prestige and competence.
Women's rising socioeconomic status has led to "hyperandry," where men marry "up" economically. This is now the norm for the bottom 40% of male earners and the top 20% of female earners, creating a new social landscape with unresolved cultural tensions and mismatched preferences.
Contrary to romantic narratives, men's decisions to commit are driven by a list of practical, factual criteria like compatible values, shared future direction, and productive communication. While important, feelings of 'love and connection' are not the primary factors that make someone the right person to marry.
Men often leverage their financial success as a primary tool of attraction in dating. In contrast, successful women frequently downplay their wealth due to a conditioned fear of being pursued for their money rather than their character—a concern their male counterparts rarely share.
Men aren't looking for a partner who mirrors their own strengths. Instead, they search for someone with complementary skills and attributes that alter and enhance their own potential, much like a star quarterback seeks a star receiver. Criticizing a man for not having her strengths is deeply counterproductive.