Rather than competing in crowded auctions, elite private equity firms pursue a differentiated "executive new build" strategy. They partner with proven operators to build new companies from scratch to address a market need, creating proprietary deals that other firms cannot access.

By completing extensive strategy work and securing board approval upfront, Milliken entered the final bidding stage as the "most certain bidder." This allowed them to close quickly and confidently, winning the deal despite not offering the highest price because the seller valued the assurance of a close.

In a competitive M&A process where the target is reluctant, a marginal price increase may not work. A winning strategy can be to 'overpay' significantly. This makes the offer financially indefensible for the board to reject and immediately ends the bidding process, guaranteeing the acquisition.

To secure allocations in competitive private rounds, public market investors like WhaleRock create extensive, proprietary research decks (e.g., a 90-page analysis). This demonstrates deep understanding and value beyond capital, earning them a spot over other investors.

To maintain pricing discipline, Fairfax has a strict M&A rule: it never participates in auctions or bidding wars. Once an offer is made, it's final. This strategy prevents them from overpaying and ensures they only acquire companies at prices that offer attractive future returns.

To stand out from the flood of PE firms, acquirers must demonstrate deep operational knowledge specific to the seller's industry. Discussing granular details like inventory management, billing rates, and software challenges builds trust and proves you are a credible partner, not just a financier. This operator-led approach resonates with founders.

The old investment banking model of mass-emailing a deal to many potential buyers is ineffective for media assets. Selling a media company now requires a custom, hands-on process targeting a handful of highly specific, strategic buyers, as the universe of potential acquirers has shrunk and their needs have changed.

Instead of lowballing, Bending Spoons makes a very fair, near-final offer immediately. This tactic builds a reputation for seriousness, similar to Warren Buffett's approach. It avoids lengthy back-and-forth and signals that they are not a buyer that can be "pushed around," creating an efficient and powerful deal-making process.

In today's crowded market, the key PE differentiator is no longer financial engineering but the ability to identify and cultivate relationships with target companies months or years before a sale process. This provides the necessary time for deep diligence and strategic planning.