Influential people are instinctively inclined to help those they perceive as "insiders." To gain their support, find a way to become part of their tribe. This can be through shared groups, interests, or backgrounds, leveraging the human instinct to support one's own.
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Instead of chasing connections, focus on internal development. By cultivating the character, mindset, and work ethic of the people you admire, you will naturally attract that high-caliber circle into your orbit.
In a noisy, low-trust market, referrals are the fastest way to build credibility. Don't just ask passively; actively build a tight-knit circle of customers and peers where you mutually act as 'Yelp reviews' for each other to generate business.
Front Office Sports began by publishing informational interviews, reframing the ask from "can I pick your brain?" to "can I tell your story?" This granted more meaningful access to influential people who were eager to share their experiences, building a powerful network under the guise of content creation.
To build relationships with potential mentors or sponsors, replace the extractive ask of "Will you mentor me?" with the value-added offer of "How can I help you?". This non-transactional approach demonstrates your worth, builds genuine rapport, and makes influential people want to invest in your career.
To effectively lead through influence, go beyond aligning on shared business objectives. Understand what personally motivates your cross-functional peers—their career aspirations or personal goals. The most powerful way to gain buy-in is to demonstrate how your initiative helps them achieve their individual ambitions.
True influence in niche communities often lies with respected experts who lack a large social media presence. Building relationships with these 'invisible influencers,' like dedicated ski bums, by providing free products can generate powerful, authentic word-of-mouth credibility.
The most effective way to receive valuable introductions is to become a valuable introducer yourself. By connecting people without expecting a direct "tit for tat" return, you build social capital and activate a cycle of reciprocity that brings opportunities back to you organically.
When meeting with senior leaders, shift the focus from your status updates to their priorities. Ask what's top of mind for them, what challenges they face, and how you can help. This reframes you from a direct report into a strategic ally, building trust and social capital.
Building influence requires a strategic approach. Actively survey your professional relationships, identify where you lack connections with stakeholders, and methodically invest time in building alliances with leaders who can advocate for your ideas when you're not in the room.
When meeting an influential person with opposing views, effectiveness trumps the need to be 'right.' The best strategy is to suppress personal indignation and identify a shared interest. Propose a policy or idea within that common ground that they might be receptive to and champion as their own.
