Social media's fundamental structure is inherently feminizing. It encourages endless verbal discourse and moral policing while completely foreclosing the possibility of physical confrontation or cooperative action—hallmarks of traditional masculine social resolution. This forces all participants, regardless of gender, to engage in communication styles that are historically more feminine.
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While the right promotes a flawed version of masculinity, the left's common response is to suggest men adopt more feminine traits. Galloway argues this is ineffective because it fails to offer an aspirational, positive vision of masculinity, leaving many men feeling alienated and unrepresented.
Extremist figures are not organic phenomena but are actively amplified by social media algorithms that prioritize incendiary content for engagement. This process elevates noxious ideas far beyond their natural reach, effectively manufacturing influence for profit and normalizing extremism.
Masculine communication focuses on conveying semantic information, where understanding is confirmed by summarizing facts. Feminine communication aims to provoke a shared emotional experience. This disconnect causes conflict when men respond to the literal words women say, while women are trying to make their partner feel what they are feeling.
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