Feeling stuck in a well-paying but unfulfilling job, Melissa Wood Tepperberg began informally coaching her colleagues. This act of service not only brought joy into a stale environment but also illuminated her true passion and purpose, laying the groundwork for her future business. It's a strategy to find purpose where you are.
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Talents that feel easy or obvious to you—things you assume everyone can do—are often your unique gifts. Leaning into these dismissed skills (e.g., effortlessly making people laugh) can reveal your true calling.
Purpose isn't exclusive to high-status professions. Any job can become a source of deep purpose by connecting its daily tasks to a larger, positive impact. A NASA custodian can be "putting a man on the moon," and a parking attendant checking tire treads can be ensuring driver safety. Purpose is a mindset.
To find your true calling, divide your life into five-year increments. For each block, list what you loved doing and what others said you excelled at. The seven or so themes that repeatedly emerge point directly to your core purpose and passion, which often get lost in the pursuit of money.
Discovering what you genuinely enjoy requires breaking out of your corporate mindset, much like physical therapy for a forgotten muscle. You must force yourself into uncomfortable, unfamiliar situations—like free tango classes or random online courses—to build the 'muscle memory' for passion and exploration.
After burning out, Bumble's founder returned with renewed purpose by reframing the company not as an app, but as a "vehicle to deliver love." This elevated, mission-driven perspective—seeing the company as a means to a greater societal end—can be a powerful tool for leaders to overcome fatigue and reconnect with their work.
Despite knowing her true calling is motivational speaking, Melissa Wood Tepperberg admits to hiding behind teaching fitness classes because it's familiar and safe. This reveals a common pattern where experts procrastinate on their next evolution by sticking with a proven, less scary version of their work.
Don't wait for a promotion or new job opening to grow. Proactively identify other teams' pain points and offer your expertise to help solve them. This proactive helpfulness builds relationships, demonstrates your value across the organization, and organically opens doors to new skills and responsibilities.
Many high-achievers stay in jobs or activities not because they are passionate, but simply because they are good at them and receive external validation. Recognizing this pattern of 'performing' is the first step to unwiring it and choosing paths that align with genuine enjoyment, not just proficiency.
If your work feels draining, you may be fulfilling roles that no longer serve you. Author Rachel Macy Stafford learned to differentiate between being a 'map maker' (guiding others) and a 'baggage carrier' (taking on others' burdens). Actively releasing depleting roles creates space for fulfilling work.
An employee's sense of purpose is derived from their internal narrative about their work's impact, not the objective nature of the task. A factory worker found joy in a repetitive job by framing it as protecting the families who would use the product he helped build.
