The biggest professional and personal problems often stem from a lack of candor. Withholding honest feedback to "keep the peace" is a destructive act that enables bad behavior and builds personal resentment over time. Delivering the truth, even when difficult, is a gift that addresses problems head-on and prevents future failure.

Neuroscience shows that individuals in high-power positions exhibit reduced motor resonance when observing others. This is a measurable neural change indicating diminished automatic empathy, not just a metaphorical shift in attitude or a conscious choice.

After achieving financial success, Donald Spann observed a frustrating shift: his opinions, even on non-business topics, were suddenly valued more by friends and peers. The content of his advice hadn't changed, but the perceived authority granted by wealth altered its reception completely.

Contrary to the popular belief that power corrupts, research suggests it acts as an amplifier. If a person is already "pro-social"—oriented towards helping others—power can increase their empathy and effectiveness. If they are selfish, power will magnify those negative traits.

Money acts as a "non-specific amplifier," much like alcohol or power. It doesn't fundamentally change your character but magnifies your existing traits—both good and bad. Insecurities become more pronounced, generosity becomes super-generosity, and a "micro asshole" becomes a "mega asshole."

Being a "nice" boss often means pleasing the majority and avoiding conflict. True kindness in leadership involves toughness—holding high standards and having difficult conversations because you have your team's best interests at heart. Kindness is about betterment, not just being liked.

Research indicates individuals with lower socioeconomic status have higher empathetic accuracy because their survival often depends on reading social cues. As leaders ascend financially and socially, this "empathy muscle" atrophies from disuse, creating an emotional and experiential divide with their teams.

Beyond a certain threshold, net worth can stop providing happiness and become a social burden. When friends, family, and the community become aware of one's wealth, their expectations change, creating social pressures and liabilities that can outweigh the financial benefits and diminish overall well-being.

Daniel Lubetzky argues that niceness (politeness) can be detrimental in the workplace as it avoids necessary, difficult feedback. True kindness requires the strength to be honest and provide constructive criticism that helps colleagues and the organization grow, even if it's uncomfortable.