Founders often try to prove their value in a sales call by offering free advice or workshops. This "helpful" approach usually fails because it ignores the customer's specific, often simple, questions for taking the call in the first place. It provides answers to questions they never asked, causing frustration.

In initial meetings with enterprise prospects, Nexla's founder didn't pitch a solution. He focused entirely on validating the problem. By asking, "Do you see this problem as well?" he framed the conversation as a collaborative exploration, which disarmed prospects and led to more honest, insightful discussions.

Salespeople become 'narcissistic' when they are so focused on their own solution and capabilities that they fail to listen to the customer. This self-involvement is fatal because customers don't care what a product does; they care about solving their specific problem.

To sell effectively, avoid leading with product features. Instead, ask diagnostic questions to uncover the buyer's specific problems and desired outcomes. Then, frame your solution using their own words, confirming that your product meets the exact needs they just articulated. This transforms a pitch into a collaborative solution.

A successful sales call is not about pitching; it's about asking two simple questions: "Why did you take this call?" and "What do you hope to get out of it?" The entire conversation should be structured around the customer's answers, rendering any pre-planned agenda secondary and potentially counterproductive.

Buyers often volunteer the exact details of their problem—their project, its urgency, and their frustration with current options. However, traditional sales training teaches founders to ignore these cues, interrupt the customer, and pivot to pitching their solution, thereby missing critical information.

Instead of pitching a customer, ask them, "Why did you decide to get on this call?" and "Why now?" This forces the prospect to articulate their own pain and why they believe you are the solution, reversing the sales dynamic and revealing core buying motivations.

In the first minute of a cold call, resist the urge to pitch your product. Instead, lead with a 'reverse pitch' that focuses entirely on the prospect's potential problems. This approach is three times more effective than using solution-focused language, as it speaks to what the buyer actually cares about.