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Contrary to popular belief, women's elaborate grooming and dressing are often not for men, but are intrasexual signals of aggression, dominance, and social status aimed at other women. An attractive woman signaling this way is seen negatively by rivals.

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Research shows that the same genetic predispositions for physical aggression (e.g., fighting) in boys can manifest as relational aggression (e.g., social exclusion, reputation damage) in girls. This highlights a common biological root for sex-differentiated expressions of aggression, which can be equally damaging.

As a competitive tactic, women advise female rivals to delay having children and prioritize their careers more heavily than they would for themselves. This serves to subtly suppress the reproductive success of competitors under the guise of helpful advice.

The speaker introduces "mate suppression" as a twisted biological impulse, particularly prevalent in toxic femininity, to harm the reproductive chances of perceived rivals. This drive manifests in behaviors that sabotage others' attractiveness or access to mates, explaining seemingly irrational social rules that secretly aim to handicap competitors.

By branding traditionally attractive masculine traits like dominance and aggression as 'toxic,' women can manipulate the mating market. This sabotages rivals' ability to select high-quality partners by steering them toward less desirable mates, thereby inhibiting their reproductive success.

The "swag gap" critique, where women lament their male partners' lack of style, is a form of failed cross-sex mind reading. It applies female standards of appearance-based status to men, who often signal high status through other means, including indifference to appearance.

People's conscious, stated reasons for their actions (proximate explanations) often obscure deeper, unconscious evolutionary drivers (ultimate explanations), such as the drive to reduce mating competition while appearing compassionate.

Highly technical, male-dominated pursuits like heavy metal guitar function as an intrasexual status competition. They are not primarily for attracting women directly. Rather, men compete to establish a hierarchy among themselves, and women are then attracted to the high-status winners.

In subsistence societies, women invest all resources into their own offspring. Only in affluent, safe societies do women accrue enough surplus resources (time, energy, capital) to make investing in the suppression of rivals a more adaptive strategy than investing further in their own reproduction.

The "having a boyfriend is cringe" trend, promoted by high-status women, may be an unconscious evolutionary strategy to suppress the reproductive success of other women, thus reducing competition for desirable partners.

A subtle form of female competition, the "bless her heart effect" involves disguising reputation-damaging gossip as an expression of concern. This allows an individual to subtly attack a rival while maintaining plausible deniability and a pro-social image.