"Good" describes positive external circumstances, while "well" describes an internal state of resilience and peace, independent of outside chaos. True satisfaction comes from cultivating this internal well-being, which allows you to handle life's challenges with grace, regardless of the situation's objective "goodness."

Everyone suffers regardless of their path. The key is to select goals so meaningful that the inevitable pain, uncertainty, and criticism are a worthwhile price to pay. Most people trade this fixed cost for trivial rewards.

Suffering isn't just pain; it's the product of pain and your resistance to it. To reduce suffering, focus not on eliminating pain (which is impossible) but on lowering your resistance to it. This reframes difficult experiences as opportunities for learning and growth, making suffering sacred.

We often seek a consistently high standard of living, but happiness is most intensely felt as a contrast to a previous, lesser state. A man blind for 46 years found more joy in a drab office carpet than most people find in a perfect sunset, because the contrast was so profound.

Achieving goals provides only fleeting satisfaction. The real, compounding reward is the person you become through the journey. The pursuit of difficult things builds lasting character traits like resilience and discipline, which is the true prize, not the goal itself.

Life inevitably involves suffering. According to logotherapy founder Viktor Frankl, the pursuit of meaning is not a luxury but the fundamental requirement that makes suffering bearable. This shifts focus from chasing happiness to crafting a life with a “why” strong enough to endure any “how.”

The modern belief that an easier life is a better life is a great illusion. Real growth, like building muscle, requires stress and breakdown. Wisdom and courage cannot be gained through comfort alone; they are forged in adversity. A truly fulfilling life embraces both.

The common advice to 'protect your mental health' often encourages avoidance. A more effective approach is to 'exercise' it. By actively and intentionally engaging with manageable challenges, you build resilience and expand your mental capacity, much like a muscle.

Deliberately engaging in challenging activities (e.g., intense exercise, cold plunges) triggers the brain's own reward systems to release feel-good neurotransmitters for hours afterward without a crash. This method of "paying for dopamine upfront" resets your joy threshold and builds resilience.