Comparing your wealth and possessions to others is an endless, unwinnable cycle of jealousy. True financial contentment comes not from having more than others, but from using money as a tool for a better life, independent of social hierarchy.
Prosperity subtly ingrains lifestyle habits that become part of your identity. As industrialist Harvey Firestone noted, trying to return to a simpler life later is nearly impossible, as you would feel like a "broken man" for failing to maintain the standard you've become accustomed to.
We often seek a consistently high standard of living, but happiness is most intensely felt as a contrast to a previous, lesser state. A man blind for 46 years found more joy in a drab office carpet than most people find in a perfect sunset, because the contrast was so profound.
Called "upside investing," this strategy involves creating a baseline financial plan using only safe assets, assuming all stock investments go to zero. This establishes a guaranteed floor for your living standard, ensuring any market gains are purely upside without risking your core lifestyle.
Instead of battling over individual assets, couples should first negotiate the overarching ratio of their post-divorce living standards (e.g., 1:1 after a long marriage). This principle-based agreement provides a clear framework for dividing assets and support, preventing fights over minor items.
Contrary to common advice, withdrawing from an IRA and paying taxes to clear high-interest debt offers a guaranteed, risk-free return. This "return" from debt elimination can be financially superior to the potential, yet risky and unguaranteed, returns from keeping the money invested in the stock market.