Trying to eliminate trauma is counterproductive. Instead, reframe its role by acknowledging it as a protective mechanism in your left brain. Thank it for its information, then consciously shift focus to other brain regions to self-soothe and move forward.

The popular notion of "moving on" from trauma is a myth that suggests you can leave the past behind. A more realistic and healthier approach is to "move forward with it," integrating the experience into your identity. This acknowledges the permanent impact of the event while still allowing for growth and rebuilding.

The pain of feeling like an outcast as a child can become a gift. This experience of exclusion can foster a profound desire to make others feel included, transforming a personal wound into a powerful source of empathy and a lifelong mission to create connection for others.

The "Earth School" model posits we volunteer for our life's curriculum via pre-incarnation "soul contracts." Instead of asking "Why me?" in a victimized tone, ask how a situation is perfectly designed for your growth. Even abusers are souls who volunteered for a difficult role.

Trauma's definition should be tied to its outcome: any permanent change in behavior from an adverse event. This reframing allows for "positive trauma," where a difficult experience forces you to adapt and establish a new, higher-performing baseline, ultimately making you better off.

Skincare founder Kate Somerville was taught to see her chaotic upbringing not as a weakness, but as a training ground that made her exceptionally good at navigating trouble. The adult self can leverage this skill while reassuring the scared inner child, turning past trauma into a present strength.

Drawing advice from a psychotherapist—"take the pain and make it part of your medicine"—Ferriss explains how he transformed his trauma. While not excusing the harm, he found that his suffering gave him a credible voice to help others facing similar struggles, turning a personal burden into a valuable offering for the world.

The Kintsugi principle, where shattered pottery is repaired with gold, is a powerful metaphor for post-traumatic growth. Instead of hiding the cracks, they are highlighted, making the object more beautiful and unique. This reframes trauma not as damage, but as a source of strength, wisdom, and resilience.

After facing failure or injustice, the natural tendency is to focus on the loss. However, progress depends on shifting focus to your remaining assets. The resilience, wisdom, and strength gained from surviving hardship are powerful resources that are more than enough to build your future.