Jane Fonda argues that mortality gives life its meaning and creative spark. At age 60, she consciously began to live in a way that would minimize future regrets. This focus on the end-of-life experience, rather than fearing it, informs present-day actions and creates a more purposeful existence.
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In Bhutan, one of the world's happiest countries, citizens are encouraged to think about death daily. This seemingly morbid practice serves a psychological purpose: embracing mortality and impermanence strips away trivial anxieties and forces a focus on what truly matters, leading to a happier, more meaningful life.
Anxiety about mortality often stems from not living in alignment with your true purpose. When you feel you are not doing what you are meant to do, the thought of death becomes frightening. Living authentically reduces this fear.
Facing mortality provides intense clarity, forcing you to make difficult decisions. It exposes which relationships are inauthentic or unhealthy, compelling you to cut ties. This painful pruning is essential for true personal growth.
We procrastinate on important tasks because we implicitly assume we have unlimited time. The practice of "Memento Mori"—remembering that life is short—creates the urgency needed to act. As Marcus Aurelius wrote, "You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think."
Facing the finitude of life can pivot your motivation system. Instead of chasing external rewards like money or status, which seem meaningless in the face of death, you become driven by an intrinsic desire to discover the absolute ceiling of your capabilities.
End-of-life regrets often stem from things left undone or unsaid. To avoid this, one can regularly use a simple 'final checklist'—a set of powerful questions about one's life, relationships, and priorities. This isn't about cleaning up at the end, but about actively building a life so full that there's nothing left to fix.
At the end of life, people don't reminisce about grand accomplishments but long for simple, ordinary pleasures like sharing a meal with loved ones. This suggests that a meaningful life is built in the quiet, everyday moments, not just the major milestones like promotions or awards.
To make better long-term decisions, annually ask what you will respect in 5-10 years across key life domains (work, family, health). This forward-looking self-judgment, inspired by his parents' end-of-life reflections, creates clarity and urgency to act now, rather than in the "ninth inning" of life.
Drawing from a rabbi's teaching, Mayim Bialik reframes life's purpose away from accumulating wealth or fame. Instead, meaning is found in how you live within the "hyphen" on your gravestone—the period between your birth and death. This focuses on being and contribution over material success.
Countering the idea that one must feel hopeful to act, Jane Fonda asserts that the reverse is true. When feeling depressed or despairing, the most effective antidote is to take action. Action itself generates hope, which she describes as a "muscle" that grows with use, not a passive state of optimism.