Instead of trying to convince people of the importance of vulnerability, first have them identify their core values. They will naturally conclude that living up to those values (e.g., courage, excellence) requires them to embrace the uncertainty and risk inherent in vulnerability.

When leaders are stuck defining their organization's mission, this question forces a shift from generic goals like survival to tangible impact. It clarifies the unique value provided to customers and society, revealing a more motivating and authentic purpose beyond simply 'staying in business.'

Purpose isn't exclusive to high-status professions. Any job can become a source of deep purpose by connecting its daily tasks to a larger, positive impact. A NASA custodian can be "putting a man on the moon," and a parking attendant checking tire treads can be ensuring driver safety. Purpose is a mindset.

Your core values aren't just abstract principles you admire; they are revealed by the concrete things you willingly give up time, ego, or comfort for. Observing your sacrifices provides a clearer, more honest assessment of what truly drives you.

While introspection is valuable for finding your path, it can become a liability once your mission is clear. Great founders like Sam Walton didn't wake up questioning the meaning of life; they woke up focused on building the next store. Relentless execution requires a degree of low introspection.

Executive Coach Matt Spielman defines success as a two-step process: first, having the self-awareness to listen to one's inner voice, and second, possessing the courage to act on that insight. This framework separates internal discovery from the external action required to live an authentic life.

The paradox of values-based work is that while it often involves difficult conversations or actions, it ultimately provides energy and fulfillment. Conversely, taking the easy way out (e.g., avoiding conflict) feels simpler in the moment but leaves you feeling hollowed out and depleted.

Goals (e.g., "be a doctor," "be happy") are outcome-focused and can lead to frustration if not achieved. Intentions (e.g., "act with kindness") are process-focused and within your control in any moment. Centering your life on intentions creates a stable internal anchor, regardless of your job title or external circumstances.

Many existential questions ('What is the meaning of life?') cause stress because their terms are undefined. Instead of trying to answer them, first ask if every term can be clearly defined and if the answer is actionable. If not, the question is poorly worded and should be dismissed.