When a decision feels wrong despite looking perfect on paper, that 'tiny inkling in your gut' isn't just a fleeting feeling. For believers, it can be interpreted as the Holy Spirit providing crucial guidance. Learning to trust this internal nudge over external validation leads to better long-term outcomes.

"Good" describes positive external circumstances, while "well" describes an internal state of resilience and peace, independent of outside chaos. True satisfaction comes from cultivating this internal well-being, which allows you to handle life's challenges with grace, regardless of the situation's objective "goodness."

You can't fix internal voids with external accolades. However, this is an "unteachable lesson." It's often easier to pursue and achieve a material desire to learn it won't bring fulfillment than it is to simply renounce the desire from the start.

The spiritual journey involves a shift from experiencing sporadic moments of connection ('what was') to living in a continuous state of presence ('what is'). This ultimate transformation is marked by losing the plural, where life itself becomes one uninterrupted divine moment.

We mistakenly believe external goals grant us permission to feel happy. In reality, happiness is a neurochemical process our brain controls. Understanding this allows one to short-circuit the endless chase for external validation and learn to generate fulfillment on demand.

Goals like making money or losing weight become self-destructive when treated as final destinations. To avoid the "arrival fallacy," frame them as intermediate steps that enable higher-order, transcendent goals like strengthening family bonds, serving others, or deepening friendships, which provide more enduring satisfaction.

The ultimate aim is not to achieve conventional success, but to fully express your unique self. This lifelong project is paradoxical: you cannot become unique by yourself. You need others—friends, family, customers—to reflect your authentic self back to you, helping you see who you are.

Chasing visual markers of success (cars, houses) often leads to hollow victories. True fulfillment comes from defining and pursuing the *feeling* of success, which is often found in simple, personal moments—like pancakes on a Saturday morning—rather than glamorous, external accomplishments.

The intensity of suffering from a negative event is not caused by the event itself, but by how it highlights and deepens a pre-existing state of feeling disconnected from a higher power or purpose. Connection to the source neutralizes or even transforms the negativity.