Repeatedly venting to friends or family creates a negative feedback loop that damages relationships. Unlike a therapist who pushes for solutions, friends often act as enablers, which hinders actual progress and leads to social exhaustion.

A core assumption of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is that problems like depression or anxiety arise because individuals haven't learned the necessary skills to manage emotions or navigate relationships. The treatment is therefore focused on explicitly teaching these presumed-missing skills.

You cannot think your way out of perfectionism with worksheets or intellectual exercises. Recovery is like learning to ride a bike: it requires a safe, experiential process. The therapeutic relationship provides a space to practice vulnerability and build a new, healthier way of relating to oneself, which information alone cannot achieve.

People consume endless self-help content but fail to change because the problem isn't a lack of information. True behavioral change requires intense, consistent intervention, which is why long-term therapy works where books and videos fail to create lasting impact.

People often confuse empathy with agreement. In collaborative problem-solving, empathy is a tool for understanding. You can completely disagree with someone's perspective while still working to accurately understand it, which is the necessary first step to finding a solution.

Contrary to the idea that all therapy is bespoke, highly effective "manualized" treatments exist with standardized protocols for issues like depression. However, most therapy consumers are unaware of this and don't know to ask for a specific, evidence-based approach from their provider.

Standard CBT's intense focus on changing thoughts and behaviors proved ineffective for highly suicidal individuals, who felt invalidated. DBT's founder, Marsha Linehan, discovered that "acceptance" of one's life and problems was a necessary prerequisite before meaningful change could occur.

A critical difference between medication and therapy is durability. Studies show when antidepressants are discontinued, depression often returns because the patient hasn't learned new behaviors or coping strategies. Therapy aims to build these skills, making its effects longer-lasting.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has core components that distinguish it from general talk therapy. Two key indicators that a therapist is genuinely practicing CBT are the assignment of homework between sessions and a consistent focus on a pre-defined, shared goal.