Don't view sales friction like pushing or persuading as an obstacle to overcome. Instead, treat it as "selection pressure"—direct feedback from reality on how your business is misaligned with customer "Pull." Your job is to diagnose this pressure to find and fix the flaws in your business model.

Despite technology being available, Starbucks rolled back in-store automation after finding it was a mistake. Management discovered that human touches like handwritten notes and more baristas drove higher customer satisfaction and longer stays, demonstrating a clear market preference for human experience over mechanized efficiency.

Brainstorming cannot reveal the true friction in your customer experience. Following JetBlue's example, leaders must regularly become their own customers. This practice uncovers how high-level decisions inadvertently create flaws in the customer journey that are invisible from the boardroom.

You can see a customer struggling with a slow, painful process and assume they're "coping." But they may be in a "good enough" equilibrium and not actively seeking change. True "coping" means they are ready to switch, not just experiencing friction. Only a sales test can validate this.

Sales processes become bloated over time, killing rep productivity. Instead of asking what to add, leaders should constantly ask what can be removed to achieve the same outcome. The best way to identify this friction is to be a rep for a day and experience the workflow firsthand.

Many business functions operate in an asymmetric incentive system where managers are rewarded for immediate, quantifiable cost savings. They face no penalty for the harder-to-measure destruction of future opportunities or customer value, leading to dangerously short-sighted and value-destroying decisions.

Leaders must distinguish between essential friction (like security codes for fraud prevention) and unnecessary friction (like difficult cancellation processes). The latter is often a short-sighted business policy that alienates customers, not a true operational necessity.

Businesses often fail to spot points of friction in their own customer journey because they are too familiar with their processes. This "familiarity bias" makes them blind to the confusing experience a new customer faces. The key is to actively step outside this autopilot mode and see the experience with fresh eyes.

Businesses often design for internal processes and efficiency, creating a series of disconnected handoffs (e.g., in a hospital or restaurant). This forces the customer to maintain the coherence of their own journey, resulting in a fragmented, unloving, and ineffective experience that ultimately harms outcomes.