When dealing with a prospect who sees themselves as superior, like the "King of Counterfeit," you must play a role that matches their ego. By framing himself as the "Sheriff of Nottingham," the agent earned the criminal's respect, which was necessary to get him to open up.
Offering food builds rapport through reciprocity. More importantly, it serves as a diagnostic tool. If a prospect in a high-stress situation refuses to eat, it signals they are in a nervous, non-receptive state, indicating you haven't yet created the "safe space" for an open conversation.
Instead of interrogating prospects with direct questions, ask them to teach you about something they are passionate about, like a hobby. This makes them feel like an expert, not a subject, releasing dopamine and causing them to unconsciously reveal their core motivations and values.
To ensure a warm, dry, and non-threatening handshake—a critical first impression—an ex-agent applies antiperspirant to his right hand and discreetly warms it under his leg before meeting someone. This combats nervousness and creates an immediate sense of comfort and trust.
To get someone to agree to an undesirable outcome (like jail), a former Secret Service agent uses a five-step process: 1) Blame outside forces, 2) Understand their predicament, 3) Diminish the impact (not culpability), 4) Demonstrate tactical empathy with a story, and 5) Focus on their noble "why."
A young agent failed to connect with an older, CEO-level subject. He had the self-awareness to recognize the mismatch and tag in his older mentor ("Yoda"), who immediately built rapport. Winning as a team is more important than individual success, even if it means stepping aside.
We instinctively label people as threats ("horns") or safe ("halos"), a useful survival mechanism. In sales, this gut instinct can be misleading, causing us to misjudge a prospect's true nature or intentions, much like the agent who focused on a pit bull while a chihuahua attacked.
To avoid transactional conversations, use the F.E.E.L. (Family, Education, Employment, Leisure) framework. The "Leisure" category is most powerful, as people have free choice in their hobbies, revealing their intrinsic motivations, passions, and character in a way that discussions about work cannot.