The feeling of excitement upon returning to New York City indicates you are still drawing energy from it. When that feeling is replaced by tiredness or dread, it signals that the city is draining you, and it may be time to move on.
One of the most insidious signs of burnout is when your passion project becomes a source of dread. For example, a photographer who no longer wants to touch their camera. This emotional shift from love to loathing signifies that your craft has become exclusively linked to work and responsibility, requiring immediate intervention.
High-achievers often burn out by over-investing emotionally, driven by an intense internal definition of success. To break this cycle, get external input from stakeholders. Their definition of "good enough" is often more reasonable and can help you recalibrate your own success metrics and boundaries.
Chasing visual markers of success (cars, houses) often leads to hollow victories. True fulfillment comes from defining and pursuing the *feeling* of success, which is often found in simple, personal moments—like pancakes on a Saturday morning—rather than glamorous, external accomplishments.
When deciding whether to continue a venture or quit, the key isn't just data. It's a personal calculation balancing two powerful emotions: the potential future regret of quitting too soon versus your current tolerance for financial anxiety and stress. This framework helps make subjective, high-stakes decisions more manageable by focusing on personal emotional thresholds.
For two weeks, nightly log the five activities that energized you and the five that drained you. This simple practice reveals your core strengths and "gifts." By analyzing these patterns, you can intentionally redesign your role and responsibilities to spend more time on energizing tasks, actively combating burnout.
Your immediate emotional response to a new goal reveals your underlying energy and mindset. A feeling of dread is a critical early warning sign that your current path is unsustainable and heading towards burnout, while excitement signals a healthier state.
Frame daily activities as either contributing to 'aliveness' (connection, movement, focus) or 'numbness' (doomscrolling, binge-watching). This simple heuristic helps you consciously choose actions that energize you and build a more fulfilling life, rather than those that numb and distract you.
To gain clarity on a major decision, analyze the potential *bad* outcomes that could result from getting what you want. This counterintuitive exercise reveals hidden motivations and clarifies whether you truly desire the goal, leading to more robust choices.
Major achievements often feel anticlimactic or even negative. True gratitude and positive emotion are sparked not by the peak moment, but by contrasting it with the memory of the difficult journey—revisiting the places and feelings associated with the struggle provides the real emotional payoff.
One speaker's best investment wasn't in stocks but in moving to a new city, simplifying his life, and being closer to family. This emotional investment yielded significant returns in happiness and well-being, highlighting that not all valuable investments are financial.