Major achievements often feel anticlimactic or even negative. True gratitude and positive emotion are sparked not by the peak moment, but by contrasting it with the memory of the difficult journey—revisiting the places and feelings associated with the struggle provides the real emotional payoff.
Early life experiences of inadequacy or invalidation often create deep-seated insecurities. As adults, we are subconsciously driven to pursue success in those specific areas—be it money, power, or recognition—to fill that void and gain the validation we lacked.
Don't quit just because a task is difficult, especially if the rewards are worthwhile. You should, however, quit if a situation 'sucks'—meaning it's toxic, unfulfilling, and unchangeable. This framework turns quitting into a calculated decision, not an emotional failure.
Reaching your ultimate goals can trigger an existential crisis and feelings of emptiness, a form of chaos. The journey of building and facing challenges, though seemingly chaotic, provides purpose and true psychological stability. Therefore, one should prioritize the challenging journey over the destination.
Happiness isn't dictated by your objective situation but by the context you place it in. A Nokia phone is amazing until you see an iPhone; poverty is a state until you see wealth next door. Freeing yourself from constant comparison is key to finding intrinsic contentment.
You can't force yourself to believe something without evidence. True self-belief is built gradually by executing small tasks successfully, creating a portfolio of personal 'case studies' that prove your capability and build momentum, much like building muscle in a gym.
Long-term success isn't built on grand, singular actions. It's the cumulative effect of small, consistent, seemingly insignificant choices made over years that creates transformative results. Intense, infrequent efforts are less effective than daily, minor positive habits.
Early in your career, prioritize opportunities that build long-term capital across five key areas. This portfolio approach—building who you know, what you know, what you can do, what you have, and what people think of you—is the foundation for future success, often more valuable than immediate salary.