When coaching a struggling salesperson, the root cause is rarely tactical. It's usually "head trash"—deep-seated limiting beliefs and blind spots, often stemming from childhood, that sabotage their efforts. The coach's primary role is to help uncover and dismantle these psychological barriers.
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Before teaching sales tactics, first understand a new rep's personal motivations. This intrinsic desire for a better future is the only thing strong enough to help them push through the inevitable pain and rejection of prospecting.
A sales manager's coaching style directly impacts their team's mindset. Constantly asking 'When will this close?' amplifies a seller's anxiety and negativity bias. In contrast, asking 'How are you helping this person?' reinforces a healthier, customer-centric process that leads to better long-term results.
Many people fail with popular self-help techniques because they don't address deep-seated, unconscious limiting beliefs formed in childhood. These beliefs act like a counter-order, canceling out conscious intentions. True progress requires identifying and clearing these hidden blocks.
Many self-limiting beliefs, like the fear of making mistakes, are tied to past definitions of success. To overcome these beliefs, you must first update what success looks like for you now. Your old driving principles may no longer serve your new goals.
You wouldn't bowl in street shoes; similarly, you can't sell effectively without the right mindset. Emotional control and mental readiness provide the stability and traction needed to handle rejection and pressure. This isn't a "nice to have"—it's foundational equipment you must prepare daily to avoid slipping at the first objection.
Empathetic salespeople often fail at prospecting because they project their own dislike of being interrupted onto potential clients. This creates cognitive dissonance, making them feel 'pushy' and causing them to avoid necessary outreach. Recognizing this projection is the first step to overcoming it.
Salespeople often focus on being 'coachable' (receptive to feedback). A more powerful trait is humility—the proactive asking for help and recognition that success is a team effort. Humility unlocks collaboration and support, getting you further, faster than simply being open to advice.
When facing economic uncertainty, sales teams often blame external factors for poor results. In reality, market conditions often remain constant. A team's turnaround is driven by a leader successfully shifting the team's internal mindset and belief in their ability to win, not by an improving market.
Top salespeople aren't just skilled; they've mastered their internal psychology. Most performance issues stem from fear, lack of information, and self-limiting beliefs, which prevent them from taking necessary actions like making calls.
Salespeople who fixate on potential negative outcomes, like a golfer expecting to hit into a water hazard, subconsciously alter their actions to make that failure more likely. This negativity bias becomes a physical, self-fulfilling prophecy where the very act of preparing for failure ensures it.