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The common argument that having children is narcissistic can be inverted. From a nihilistic viewpoint where nothing truly matters, focusing solely on oneself by *not* having children becomes the ultimate act of narcissism. The logical default is to follow our biological imperative.

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The Nihilist's Counter: Not Having Kids is More Narcissistic Than Having Them | RiffOn