Historically, societies sent surplus young men to war or monasteries to manage their disruptive potential. Today, the internet, through video games and online communities, may be serving a similar function by absorbing their time and energy, potentially preventing real-world violence even as it fosters online hostility.

The common belief that pornography use placates sexual desire and reduces real-world mate-seeking is flawed. Data suggests the most sexually active men, who are actively seeking partners, are also the highest consumers of pornography.

Modern dating apps create a dynamic where a small percentage of men monopolize sexual partners, leaving many others sexless. This technologically-driven outcome mirrors 'effective polygyny,' an ancestral mating pattern, rather than creating a new social problem.

Historically, cultures used rituals to push men beyond natural laziness. Today's anti-masculine narratives dismantle these social incentives, allowing many men to withdraw and not strive for traditional ideals of productivity and courage.

Dr. Soh argues that problematic porn use is often a coping mechanism for underlying anxiety and procrastination rather than a true addiction. It serves as an easy distraction to avoid life's problems and regulate emotions, making it a form of self-sedation, not a chemical dependency.

Historically, unpartnered young men caused societal disruption. This is less prevalent today because digital media provides titrated doses of sexual satisfaction (porn), status-seeking (video games), and community (screens), pacifying them out of real-world disruptive action. This creates men who are "useless" rather than "dangerous."

The fundamental male desire to increase value in the sexual marketplace is a core driver for self-improvement, ambition, and societal contribution. Men who voluntarily opt out of this system remove a primary incentive for personal growth, leading to unpredictable social outcomes.

Instead of being suppressed, male horniness should be celebrated as a primary driver for 'leveling up' in life. The desire for partnership encourages men to improve their fitness, career, and social skills. The rise of porn and platforms like OnlyFans subverts this natural incentive, contributing to a crisis of inaction and loneliness.

Ross Douthat points to a surprising social trend as a warning for a future of abundance. Despite unprecedented freedom, people are having less sex and forming fewer relationships. This suggests that addictive digital entertainment can overpower even fundamental human drives, a bleak indicator for a society with unlimited leisure.