Despite living with unprecedented wealth, many in the West feel a 'cost of living crisis.' This is because human happiness is dictated by a narrow frame of reference—we compare ourselves to our immediate peers, not to the global population or to past generations. Our sense of well-being is relative, not absolute.

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Your sense of financial well-being is not determined by your absolute wealth but by the equation: what you have minus what you want. A person with modest means who desires nothing more can be far happier than a billionaire who constantly strives for a higher net worth.

The subjective experience of suffering can be worse for those who are poor amidst extreme wealth (e.g., homeless in San Francisco) than for those in an environment of shared, absolute poverty. The constant, stark comparison of one's own failure against others' success can create a mental anguish that outweighs objective material hardship.

Happiness isn't dictated by your objective situation but by the context you place it in. A Nokia phone is amazing until you see an iPhone; poverty is a state until you see wealth next door. Freeing yourself from constant comparison is key to finding intrinsic contentment.

The anxiety driving protectionism in the West stems from seeing other nations catch up, not from an absolute decline in living standards. This psychological fear of losing the top spot undermines national confidence and can trigger a dangerous, self-defeating shift toward isolationism.

We often seek a consistently high standard of living, but happiness is most intensely felt as a contrast to a previous, lesser state. A man blind for 46 years found more joy in a drab office carpet than most people find in a perfect sunset, because the contrast was so profound.

The distorted perception of one's financial health, or 'money dysmorphia,' is not exclusive to the financially insecure. A significant portion of Americans earning over $100k annually do not consider themselves wealthy, revealing a stark disconnect between financial reality and perception fueled by online comparisons to extreme wealth.

More money acts as a multiplier for your existing emotional state. For a person who is already happy and content, wealth can enhance their life. However, for someone who is fundamentally unhappy or unfulfilled, more money will not solve their core problems and may even exacerbate their misery.

A major source of modern anxiety is the tendency to benchmark one's life against a minuscule fraction of outliers—the world's most famous and wealthy people. This creates a distorted view of success. Shifting focus to the vast majority of humanity provides a healthier perspective.

Happiness is the gap between reality and expectations. Even in a world of immense progress in wealth and health, people may not feel better off if their expectations rise faster. Appreciating nothing despite objective improvements is, as Morgan Housel describes, a tragic way to live.

Unprecedented global prosperity creates a vacuum of real adversity, leading people to invent anxieties and fixate on trivial problems. Lacking the perspective from genuine struggle, many complain about first-world issues while ignoring their immense privilege, leading to a state where things are 'so good, it's bad.'