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Similar to weightlifting where the 'most important rep is the one you can't do,' building boldness requires aiming for failure. Fred Joyal advises practicing uncomfortable actions where consequences are minimal (e.g., role-playing) so that boldness becomes reflexive when the stakes are high.

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