Rick Rubin avoids regret by viewing each project as a "diary entry"—a reflection of the best he could do at a specific moment in time. Since it was the peak of his ability *then*, there's nothing to be critical of later. If it could have been better, he would have kept working on it.
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Failing to release your finished work does more than delay a single project; it creates a creative bottleneck. Like writing the same diary entry for years, it prevents you from moving forward, robbing your next potential works of the opportunity to be brought to life.
Evaluate current actions by asking what your future self will be grateful you had the courage to do. This reframes daunting tasks as future victories and builds momentum by appreciating your past self's brave decisions, making it easier to act now for future benefit.
Regret traps you in a cycle of reliving past mistakes without changing the outcome, similar to how worry focuses on an uncontrollable future. Reflection, however, is an objective debrief of the past to extract lessons, gain clarity, and inform future actions for growth.
Instead of viewing the end of a long-term project as a failure or total conclusion, reframe it as completing a chapter. This 'book on a shelf' can be admired for its accomplishment and potentially revisited later, removing the pressure of a permanent ending and preserving its legacy.
The anxiety over "wasted time" after pivoting from a skill or career is a destructive mindset. Instead, frame these experiences as necessary parts of your personal narrative that provide learning and memories, not as a net loss or a failure.
A critical distinction exists between productive and destructive self-doubt. Questioning if the work is good enough drives improvement ("You can doubt your way to excellence"). Questioning if you are good enough leads to paralysis and a sense of hopelessness that halts creativity.
“Giving yourself grace” is not an excuse for poor effort. It is a post-performance strategy. Uphold a high standard in your work, but apply grace in the evaluation by learning from mistakes without obsessive self-criticism, which prevents you from backing away after a setback.
The fear of not finishing perfectly prevents many from starting. Reframe "unfinished" as an opportunity for discovery. A failed novel can become a great short story; a failed wallpaper attempt can become bubble wrap. The final outcome is often better than the initial plan.
Instead of striving for perfection, the key to overcoming creative blocks is to allow yourself to create subpar work. Acknowledging that 80-90% of an initial draft will be discarded lowers the stakes and makes it easier to begin the creative process.
Adopt a new operating system for decision-making. Instead of evaluating choices based on an unattainable standard of perfection, filter every action through a simple question: does this choice result in forward progress, or does it keep me in a state of inaction? This reframes the goal from perfection to momentum.
