Viewing customer relationships through a strict Return on Investment (ROI) lens creates a toxic, transactional dynamic. A "Desire to Invest" (DTI) model prioritizes building genuine, long-term connections and empathy, much like a healthy human relationship, rather than tracking a ledger of exchanges.

To motivate and retain employees, especially in a challenging market, leaders must shift their perspective from 'they work for me' to 'I work for them.' This servant-leadership approach involves genuinely caring about your team's well-being and success, which fosters loyalty and improves performance.

To build a loyal and effective team, leaders should constantly make "deposits"—helping employees advance, improve, and do their jobs. This builds goodwill, so when a leader needs to make a "withdrawal" by asking for something, the team is happy to oblige. This applies to customers, employees, and government stakeholders alike.

Public companies, beholden to quarterly earnings, often behave like "psychopaths," optimizing for short-term metrics at the expense of customer relationships. In contrast, founder-led or family-owned firms can invest in long-term customer value, leading to more sustainable success.

Spinoza's concept of "canatus" (striving) highlights how misalignment between individual goals (e.g., a CEO's reputation) and the organization's goals (shareholder returns) creates agency problems that damage the entire enterprise, underscoring the critical need for incentive alignment.

A brand's long-term health depends on leaders viewing themselves as stewards, not owners. This mindset allows the brand to have its own life, adapt, and evolve—much like a child growing into its own person—ensuring it can survive beyond the founder's direct control.

Contrary to a shareholder-first dogma, these leaders operate on an employee-first principle. They believe that well-treated, empowered employees provide superior customer service. This creates loyal customers, which drives sustainable profits and ultimately delivers superior long-term returns for shareholders.

The biggest unlock for a successful long-term partnership is to stop keeping score. Instead of tracking contributions and demanding reciprocity, one should define their own standard for being a good partner and live up to it. This approach avoids the bias of overvaluing one's own contributions, preventing transactional resentment.

Long-term business sustainability isn't about maximizing extraction. It's about intentionally providing more value (51%) to your entire ecosystem—customers, employees, and partners—than you take (49%). When you genuinely operate as if you work for your employees, you create the leverage for sustainable growth.