Due to the finite nature of time, you can't truly "keep your options open." Refusing to commit to a path is still a choice with its own set of consequences. Every decision, including indecision, is a form of "settling" because it closes the door on all other possibilities for that moment.

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Sadness and hopelessness are not caused by a lack of options, but a *perceived* lack of options. This perception is created by self-imposed rules and an unwillingness to make difficult trade-offs. To find solutions, you must question what you see as impossible.

Being unable to choose between several viable ideas isn't a strategy problem; it's a psychological one. This indecisiveness is often a defense mechanism, allowing you to talk about potential without ever risking the public failure of execution. The solution is to force a decision—flip a coin, draw from a hat—and commit.

When facing a major career crossroads, the goal isn't to find the objectively "best" option, as it's unknowable. The key is to make a decision based on intuition, commit to it fully, and refuse to entertain "what if" scenarios about the paths not taken.

Manifestation fails when you are rigidly attached to a specific 'how' or 'what.' This fixation prevents you from recognizing bigger, more aligned opportunities that arrive in unexpected forms—a chance conversation, a delay, or a redirection. Openness is key to receiving.

A psychology experiment revealed that people forced to commit to a choice became happier with it over time because the brain rationalizes the decision, effectively manufacturing happiness. In contrast, keeping options open leads to second-guessing and dissatisfaction. Decisiveness is a key to happiness.

Modern culture defines freedom as autonomy and keeping options open. A more powerful form is the "freedom to do hard things," which is only achieved through commitment. By closing off options—like committing to a person or a craft—we gain the capacity and skill to achieve meaningful goals.

The true cost of becoming great at one thing isn't the work, but the discipline to ignore all other 'shiny objects.' Success comes from the paths untaken. The fear of missing out (FOMO) is the price of focus.

True prioritization requires making explicit trade-offs. If all your decisions look good and you can't articulate the negative consequence—what you are *not* doing or are delaying—you haven't made a meaningful decision. You've simply created a wish list.

Many people get stuck in "decision purgatory," believing they are avoiding risk. In reality, they are making the worst trade: giving up years of their life without gaining experience, skills, or progress in return. Consciously choosing a path, even a risky one, is superior to this default of inaction.

Since human life is finite, you will inevitably "fail" to do everything you want to do. Accepting this isn't depressing; it's liberating. It frees you from the constant, anxious struggle to avoid failure, allowing you to relax and focus on doing what truly matters with the time you have.

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