Treat each person in your life as their own unique social media platform. This mental model helps you consciously choose which "feeds" you engage with, allowing you to curate your informational and energetic diet as deliberately as you manage apps on your phone.
Your ability to be a positive, "nutritious" presence for others is a direct result of nourishing yourself first through practices like meditation and self-reflection. When your inner space is clear, your interactions naturally elevate others; if you're preoccupied, you can't be fully present for them.
Time management is a subset of a more critical skill: energy management. Instead of just scheduling your day, actively invest your energy in people and activities that replenish it, while divesting from those that drain it. This shift in focus is a more fundamental driver of productivity and well-being.
Social media algorithms can be trained. By actively blocking or marking unwanted content as "not interested," users can transform their "for you" page from a source of distracting content into a valuable, curated feed of recommended information.
According to Mohnish Pabrai, Buffett categorizes people into three groups: 3% are terrible, 94% are average, and 3% are wonderful. To optimize your life and associations, ignore the bottom 97% and concentrate your energy exclusively on the top 3% of genuinely wonderful people.
Periodically evaluate the people in your life by asking if interactions with them are easy, light, fun, or educational. If not, consciously limit future engagement. This 'friendventory' protects your most valuable resource—your energy—and creates space for more positive relationships.
View your total daily interactions (in-person, digital, brief, deep) as a 'social biome.' Like a biological ecosystem, it is shaped both by your choices (e.g., being kind) and by many factors beyond your control (e.g., who you encounter). This perspective highlights the cumulative impact of small, seemingly minor interactions.
The people around you set your performance floor and ceiling. Conduct a 'friendventory' by asking tough questions like, "Would I let my child date them?" and "Are they energy amplifiers or vampires?" to intentionally curate a circle that pushes you forward, not holds you back.
Frame daily activities as either contributing to 'aliveness' (connection, movement, focus) or 'numbness' (doomscrolling, binge-watching). This simple heuristic helps you consciously choose actions that energize you and build a more fulfilling life, rather than those that numb and distract you.
Humans learn what to want by observing others (mimetic desire). Social media expands our 'comparison set' to the entire world's curated highlights, creating a recipe for discontent. The solution is to be highly intentional about who you compare yourself to, carefully curating your inputs to align with your actual values and well-being.
Social media algorithms are not a one-way street; they are trainable. If your feed is making you unhappy, you can fix it in minutes by intentionally searching for and liking content related to topics you enjoy, putting you back in control of your digital environment.