Lasting change stems from identity-based habits, not outcome-based goals. Every small action—one meditation, one boundary set—is a 'vote' for the person you want to become. This accumulation of 'identity evidence' makes new behaviors feel natural and intrinsic rather than forced.

Many people list "family" as a core value, but this is a misnomer. A true core value is a behavioral principle (e.g., "always be there") that applies across all domains of your life—work, friendships, and family. Family is a top priority where you apply your values, not the value itself.

Traditional self-care is often seen as selfish. A more powerful approach is to expand the definition of "self" to include family, community, and the world. Caring for yourself enables you to care for the collective. This reframes inner work as a foundational step toward building the world you want to see.

The modern consumer mindset is endless—always seeking newer, better, more. Adopting the 17th-century proverb "Enough is as good as a feast" shifts focus from material accumulation to non-material abundance like joy and peace. This moderation isn't just about personal well-being; it recognizes that our excess directly impacts whether others have enough.

The relentless pursuit of extraordinary moments and public success often causes one to miss the profound joy in the mundane. True wealth is found in the 'weeds'—the everyday, average experiences that constitute the fabric of a fulfilling life.

People mistakenly chase happiness through spending, but happiness is a temporary emotion, like humor, that lasts only minutes. The more achievable and durable goal is contentment—a lasting state of being satisfied with what you have. Aligning spending to foster long-term contentment, rather than short-term happiness, is key to well-being.

Chasing visual markers of success (cars, houses) often leads to hollow victories. True fulfillment comes from defining and pursuing the *feeling* of success, which is often found in simple, personal moments—like pancakes on a Saturday morning—rather than glamorous, external accomplishments.

A powerful redefinition of success is moving away from an identity centered on your profession. The ultimate goal is to cultivate a life so rich with hobbies, passions, and relationships that your job becomes the least interesting aspect of who you are, merely a bystander to a well-lived life.

The pursuit of wealth as a final goal leads to misery because money is only a tool. True satisfaction comes from engaging in meaningful work you would enjoy even if it failed. Prioritizing purpose over profit is essential, as wealth cannot buy self-respect or happiness.