Achieving external markers of success, like a multi-million dollar exit, often fails to provide a sense of accomplishment. Instead, it can lead to feelings of emptiness, anxiety, and imposter syndrome because internal self-worth was tied to the struggle, not the outcome.
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Every successful founder journey includes a point where quitting is the most rational decision. Spencer Skates argues the only way to persevere is to anchor to a deeply held intrinsic motivation or a "mission that's greater than yourself." External motivators like money or recognition are insufficient to overcome this existential pain.
The primary error founders make is confusing external achievements (revenue, exit) with internal fulfillment. Financial success should be viewed as a tool that enables a life aligned with your personal values, rather than being the source of fulfillment itself.
When founders define success by external metrics like net worth or exit size, the target constantly shifts upward upon achievement. A $1 million goal becomes $10 million, and a single exit becomes a need for multiple. This creates a perpetual cycle of striving without ever feeling successful.
The depression of someone chasing wealth is often buffered by the hope that money will solve their problems. The true psychological danger comes *after* achieving financial success, when you realize your non-money problems persist. This can lead to a profound and debilitating sense of hopelessness.
Tying your identity to professional achievements makes you vulnerable and risk-averse. By treating business as a "game" you are passionate about, but not as the core of your self-worth, you can navigate high-stakes challenges and failures with greater objectivity and emotional resilience.
An exit that provides a significant financial win but isn't enough to retire on can be a powerful motivator. It acts as a 'proof point' that validates the founder's ability while leaving them hungry for a much larger outcome, making them more driven than founders who are either pre-success or have achieved a life-changing exit.
After selling his company, the founder experienced six months of bliss followed by a period of feeling useless and lacking purpose. This 'valley of shadows' is a common but rarely discussed phenomenon where accomplished founders struggle with a loss of identity and intensity, ultimately driving them to build again.
The most accomplished people often don't feel they've "made it." Their immense drive is propelled by a persistent feeling that they still have something to prove, often stemming from a past slight or an internal insecurity. This is a constant motivator that keeps them climbing.
