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Scott Galloway argues that while workplace romances among junior staff are natural, corporate officers and executives must adhere to an absolute ban on intra-office relationships. In positions of corporate power, power asymmetries distort normal interactions: men often mistake polite kindness for sexual interest, while women can mistake sexual advances for standard workplace mentorship or kindness, inevitably creating severe legal and organizational liabilities.
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