An obsessive attachment to another person is not about the qualities of that person (the "drug"). It is a symptom of deeper internal issues and traumas. The relationship is merely the mechanism you are using to cope with your own pain, creating a cycle of dependency.
Early negative experiences, such as parental abuse, cause children to internalize blame. This creates a deeply ingrained subconscious program that they are inherently flawed, which dictates their reactions and self-perception for decades until it is consciously unraveled.
To understand your deepest, subconscious beliefs, ignore your conscious thoughts and simply observe the tangible results in your life. Your health, wealth, and relationships are the physical manifestation of your true programming. The results don't lie.
The people we attract, especially romantic partners, are not random. They serve as mirrors reflecting our unhealed wounds. An inconsistent partner, for example, appears because the universe is providing an opportunity to heal the part of you that feels it only deserves emotional "breadcrumbs."
People stay in bad situations by numbing themselves to current pain. To break free, vividly imagine the future: how much worse will this pain be in one, five, or ten years? Contrasting this amplified suffering with the feeling of freedom makes the choice to leave clear.
The subconscious mind, which governs 95% of our being, is always awaiting direction. Using "I am" statements consciously programs it, shaping your identity and, consequently, your reality. Your subconscious acts as a servant, executing the identity you declare.
When trapped in negative thought loops about your own inadequacies, the quickest escape is to focus on helping others. The principle "when in doubt, focus out" replaces self-pity with a sense of worthiness, contribution, and gratitude, effectively disrupting the cycle.
Manifestation implies attracting something you lack, creating separation. A more powerful approach is "realization"—the understanding that you are already whole and one with your desire. This shifts your identity from someone who *wants* it to someone who *is* it, collapsing the timeline to achieve it.
Needy energy repels what you desire. The way to attract things effortlessly is to release attachment to the outcome. This doesn't mean you stop wanting things; it means your sense of self and happiness is no longer contingent on acquiring them. This surrender makes you magnetic.
Many are drawn to "chemical attraction"—an intense rush often rooted in trauma bonds. A healthier foundation is "safety attraction," where you feel emotionally and psychologically safe to be your authentic self. This shift from chasing a high to seeking safety is critical for lasting relationships.
Chronic physical pain can be energetically tied to unresolved self-blame. By looking in a mirror and repeating phrases like "I'm sorry, I forgive you," one can release the emotional block, leading to an immediate and dramatic reduction of physical pain that medicine couldn't touch.