Regrets aren't about specific failures, but about consistently choosing the safe, logical path (the 'big boy/girl') over the intuitive, risk-taking inner voice (the 'little boy/girl'). A life without regret requires letting your inner child 'come out and play' at critical forks in the road.

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Regret traps you in a cycle of reliving past mistakes without changing the outcome, similar to how worry focuses on an uncontrollable future. Reflection, however, is an objective debrief of the past to extract lessons, gain clarity, and inform future actions for growth.

The greatest obstacle to expanding personal capacity isn't stress or trauma itself, but the active avoidance of facing life's difficulties. Our refusal to engage with challenges is what ultimately shrinks our lives and potential, not the challenges themselves.

When facing a major career crossroads, the goal isn't to find the objectively "best" option, as it's unknowable. The key is to make a decision based on intuition, commit to it fully, and refuse to entertain "what if" scenarios about the paths not taken.

From a young age, we suppress our authentic selves (intuition) to maintain connection with caregivers. This creates a lifelong pattern of seeking external validation over internal knowing, leading us to distrust our gut feelings.

While it's easy to regret known bad decisions, like passing on an investment, the far greater mistakes are the unseen ones. The meeting you canceled or the connection you didn't pursue could have been the pivotal moment of your career. This mindset liberates you from the fear of making visible errors and encourages action.

The critical inner voice is a permanent part of our programming from culture and childhood. Instead of trying to silence it, which many self-help approaches attempt, the real skill is learning to accept its presence and get "unstuck" from its influence.

Waiting to overcome fear before pursuing new ventures is a recipe for stagnation. Pushing beyond your comfort zone is naturally terrifying, but it's also exhilarating and essential for growth. The key is to act in spite of the fear, because that is when you are most alive and your potential expands.

The process of following your intuition is more important than the outcome. It eliminates the anxiety from going against your gut, making even 'wrong' decisions feel right and leading to less regret.

The way to handle the inner critic is not to fight or stop it. Instead, do the opposite: actively express its concerns, have a dialogue with it, and develop a collaborative relationship. This counterintuitive approach transforms the dynamic from an internal battle into a partnership.

When deciding whether to leave a stable job to start Amazon, Jeff Bezos asked which choice he would regret more at age 80. People are far more haunted by the opportunities they didn't take than the ones they took that failed. This is a powerful mental model for making bold career leaps.